Learn, Love, & Live True Self

Your true self is your most valuable asset, having the power to give you your most freeing and fulfilling life. She is not only worth expansion, elevation and celebration but creates it without permission.

Yet, if you ask ten people to define “true self”, you’ll get ten or more different answers. Let us find common ground here.

Within the True Self Society, we define true self as who you were before you entered Earth’s realm. Before the world told you who to be. Before domestication.

True Self is . . .

• First, the spirit you. That inner-core you that’s directly connected to Source*. (We’ll talk more about this later on in our community.)

• The raw footage beneath the layers of "shoulds" and expectations, and the inherent brilliance you reveal as you shed what doesn't belong.

• Who you are when no one is watching. Your exact essence—your honest thoughts, feelings, values, core beliefs, motivations, and desires. It is your fundamental being that distinguishes you from others and that remains consistent regardless of external influences or societal expectations.

• The most open, honest, vulnerable, and carefree expression of what genuinely resonates with you.

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What it isn't

Knowing what a thing is often becomes clearer when we see what it is not.

True Self is not:

• A facade, an intentional outward appearance or front that is put on to conceal a person's true feelings, thoughts, or identity and to conform to societal expectations or others’ opinions—one that, perhaps, is disturbing when she is alone.

• Self-hate, allowing fear, insecurity, or others to dictate your worth and actions, often demonstrated as attacks on others.

• People-pleasing, making choices solely to gain approval from others as a way to feel valued.

• Disconnection, ignoring your feelings, shrinking your abilities, or suppressing your desires for the sake of fitting in or to make others comfortable.

• Role-playing, adopting identities or behaviors that don’t reflect your true nature to satisfy others. An example is a poor student who gives an extravagant gift to her professor she barely knows.

• Rude or inconsiderate, using defensive or coping mechanisms to hide insecurities or vulnerabilities.

• Selfish, lacking appreciation for the well-being of or being in relationship with others which often manifests as greed, narcissism, entitlement, and other egocentric traits.

Why pursue it?

Here’s straight truth. Not living true self (even telling “white” lies) is exhausting. It leads to dissatisfaction, unhappiness, heightened stress, fear, overwhelm and confusion about who you are and what you want.

Anyway you cut it, being the truest to self as you can yields outcomes for a fulfilling and meaningful life:

• Deep awareness of identity, desires, and capabilities so that we’re much freer and more comfortable with self and others to do the things we want to do in life, shining both when we are with other people and when we are alone.

• Balanced and savvy energy intelligence, knowing when and how best to tip the expression scale between Divine feminine and masculine.

• High sense of inner peace and harmony that transcends the need for physical femininity (an appearance, way to act or perform), feminism (the “boss bitch” character archetypes), materialism, manipulation, or dominance.

• Independent choice (instead of habit, learned protective behaviors, or trauma responses) over when to interact, with whom, how much, and why, avoiding pleasing others at the sake of our own sanity.

• More satisfying relationships, focusing on our own actions—not “perfect”, but perfectly self.

• A profound sense of freedom to live your life on your terms while allowing others to do the same.

How we do it

Living true self is only about you: who you are, who you want to be, and how you express yourself consistently. It is an inside-out intention to:

• See, know, understand, and embody in the present moment exactly who you inherently are, free from masks and pretensions or a desire to be anyone else.

• Radically and joyfully accept the fullness of you, whatever that looks like—flaws, perfections, uniqueness, and all.

• Own your goddessness, conscientiously creating your world through ease with being you, choices and external actions that align with your inner authenticity, and boundaries that guard self with all diligence.

• Express love first to self, drawing on the divine feminine qualities of Source*, such as intuition, nurturing, receptivity, compassion, and creativity. Only then will you be capable of expressing love to others. You cannot give what you do not have.

Through this is how the rest of us will know the real you. Undomesticated.

Within the True Self Society, we’ll explore together how to learn, love, and live true self as she evolves—as she will, as she must.

What say you?

*I believe there exists the ultimate origin of all things. This is one way that I refer to it.