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Poor decision making amid social, cultural, and economic debris—from microaggressions to being heads of households—has seduced many women of color into being who we’re not. Or never knowing who we are.
So many wear masks. Are lost in fake personas or burnout. Lack self-awareness, doubt themselves, play small, feel unworthy, or no longer know their genuine feelings, values, and needs. Or they let others dictate their lives for them. And waste precious time.
It is eating away at us.
Just consider that Black women are 1.5 times more likely than White women to report feeling sad most or all the time or that Black women are more than twice as likely as all women to code-switch. There are plenty more stats out there like these.
Is that how we want to live? No, not at all.
What Propelled Me to True Self
20 years and two children into an incompatible marriage, my son and I were in the car waiting for my daughter to finish choir rehearsal.
He turned to me with his observations and said, “Mom, why don’t you get a divorce?”
I went through a litany of proper reasons, ending with “Divorce isn’t in my DNA.”
He replied, “Is unhappiness in your DNA?”
It shook me awake to what I was really doing.
I was snuggling up with conformity. Pleasing the beliefs of my upbringing. Following the parental brick road to get a good job, be a good wife, buy a nice house, and be a good mother. It was a story, but not fully or genuinely my story. And it —despite the heavy weight of and unproductive reality in my house.
That’s when I decided that I would love me first, then others, which meant living my true self and exiting the marriage.
Shortly after, I authored the award-winning novel, A Most Useful Betrothal. It imagines how the wise and beautiful biblical Abyga’el ended up married to a fool and how she finally taps her wisdom to see herself and find peace.
The whimsical and tender story is also a parable of my experience and how smart, attractive women can make choices that land us in situations and predicaments, most often steered by false narratives about ourselves.
Now, I help other women assess the fruit of their decisions and gently re-direct that energy to free the magic of embodying true self—growing their inner divine goddess and creating the lives they want to live without sacrificing themselves.
If that sounds like something you want, keep reading.
Why I Started True Self Society
Because most advice on wellness and self-care is piecemeal, ignoring inner wholeness from alignment with one's true self—without reliance on luxury or consumerism.
Others say:
❌ “Self-care is having a spa day.” (It isn’t.)
❌ “Soft life will give you a life of ease.” (It won’t.)
❌ “It takes time and money to live authentically.” (Says who?)
I started True Self Society to fill in the pitfalls and show you what works.
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